8 Ways to Survive Holidays with Negative People 

We all know someone that is hard to be around because of negativity. Maybe they frequently criticize others, gossip, judge, shame people, or belittle those around them. It can be hard to enjoy holiday gatherings when you dread having to interact with their negativity. It may or may not be directed at you, but either way it impacts you. It can have an effect on your mood, your stress level, and even your willingness to show up. So how can you get through the parties or family get-togethers when you know you will have to interact with the scrooge in your life? Here are 8 simple ideas to help you survive.

  

1. Imagine a waterfall; put their words into the water as they are talking to you, crank up the sound of the water and watch the negativity flow downstream.
2. Listen to Holiday Music. Tune into the music and tune out of the conversation if you find yourself needing a break. 
3. Protect Yourself! Imagining a shield or force field surrounding you can help you feel protected from their negative criticisms. Make sure their words do not get past your barrier or reach you. 
4. Say Enough is Enough. Speak up for yourself and ask them to stop. Try using an “I feel” statement and follow it with a request. For example: “I feel judged when you say ___. Let’s change the subject.”
5. Seek Your Emergency Exits. It’s ok to take a break and walk away. You can either politely excuse yourself or sneak away into another room. Go out for fresh air. 
6. Empower Yourself. Remind yourself that you are ok with who you are and that you don’t need anyone else’s approval. You do not have to listen to other people’s opinions, especially if they feel negative.
7. Use Gratitude. Be thankful for the things that are going well in your life and for your loved ones. Even if you aren’t feeling thankful, shift your mind to say “I am grateful for…” and list 7 things that make you grateful. There are always things to be grateful for, even if it is as simple as toilet paper!
8. Beat Them With Kindness. Try a compassion meditation: feeling compassion for yourself and others in your good graces, then expanding it to those with which you have a conflict. Send positive thoughts, love and energy towards everyone and you will notice a change in how you feel with that one person. 

 

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